Hi precious gems,
It's such a joy to be able to connect with you knowing that we are all plowing the same field-the Lord's Vineyard. It is a privilege to be chosen of all women to represent God in the capacity that we all are at the moment. This great honor comes with some responsibilities which we all are handling in diverse ways.
I just want to use this opportunity to encourage you as you labor in the Lord's vineyard, supporting your husbands in ministry. I have been operating in this capacity for several years and will like to share some wisdom from my experiences with you. One of the challenges we face as pastors' wives is the case of identity. It is important for us to be secure in who we are, and not in who others think we are. You are a strong and anointed woman. It is important to know who you are in God. Our identity is not in what we do but in who we are in God. It is when we are who God sees us as, that we are most effective for kingdom work.
It is also important for us to be patient with those we are ministering to,seeing them as babes that need tending. Babies need lots of attention and care. They are demanding and often move and act according to their emotions. A baby's world centers around herself, not others. It takes time for them to move out of this self-centredness towards selfless service and humility, but eventually, they will grow. During this time they reflect characteristics that will rub you the wrong way. They will throw temper-tantrums. They will demand feedings of the word to renew their mind often because milk does not satisfy for long. They will not perform to perfection and will make many mistakes but be patient with them.
Child development specialist have proven that not even one stage of development can be missed without creating a problem. A child must crawl before they walk. This is true. If a child skips crawling, then they miss development in an area that will hinder them later. They must go through each stage to fully develop into maturity. This is also true spiritually. Your spiritual children must grow spiritually in every stage before they can reach maturity in the Word. As they go through the developmental stages, they will experience God and become strong and reflect the character of God.
Be secure in who you are; "a woman of virtue, a woman of prayer, a woman of strength, a woman of character, a woman of integrity, a woman of the Word, woman of faith, a mother to her natural children, a mother to her spiritual children, a woman of authority, a woman of power, a wife to her natural husband, a leader in ministry and life". You are called to this ministry just as much as your husband. You are one. Half cannot do the job without the other half. You are very important to your husband.
The spiritual children placed in your charge in this ministry require a mother and a father to care for them. You have a purpose in raising these children that your husband cannot fulfill. And, he has a purpose in raising these children that you cannot fulfill. You must work together as a team, drawing on each other's strengths and skills to raise the children, train them, and to draw out of them the leaders who are to go out and do exploits for the kingdom. Your role in raising and preparing these future leaders is crucial to their growth and development.
Love them as you love your own children. Love them unconditionally, as only a mother can do. Your love will not always be returned. Your love may even be rejected, neglected and abused. Remember Jesus experienced the same but still kept on loving us anyway. During the times you feel impatient, abused, neglected, rejected, unloved, and do not see why you should do what you do, why you should care as you care, why you should continue despite it all, turn to the cross and find strength and comfort in God's love. For he has given us beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garments of praise for the spirit of heaviness, that we might be trees of righteousness, the planting of our Lord that he might be glorified.
I know it's not easy but it's all worth it. Always remember that you are not alone. Keep holding the fort and shining for our God. Never you relent, don't quit. You are an indispensable piece of God's kingdom. You are chosen for a purpose and the world is waiting for what God has deposited in you. You are blessed of all women and in you lies greatness. I know you will make it.
I love you with an everlasting love